Ive taken a pretty distinct step away from many people in my life as of recent. Though i'm usually a fleeting figure in most people lives, Ive actually make an effort to step away this time. Though the details of each instance are all different I just dont see myself as a constant figure in many peoples lives except for a marked few, who I know refuse to let me go even if I tried....I call them friends.
Part of the reason I decided to step away from many relationships, both platonic and romantic is to focus on me...school, work and just ME. I really hold myself to a high standard and dont feel like myself unless they are met. I dont see myself dating which has caused a few sad faces within the past year, but its for everyones own good. Im not here to waste anyones time, so when I do date I want to make sure bringing alot to the table. That is my own insecurity...Ive been told that with regard to relationships i seem to have it "together", and "it seems a bit intimidating". I understand women are idealistic and would certainly accept a guy who was down on his luck, though im not "that guy", my point is im sure im a good catch for someone at the moment, but personally, I wouldnt even have the confidence to make any moves..
Monday, July 30, 2012
Forgiveness and Understanding
...the lack thereof, something I know a lot about.
I dont seek to understand the actions of most people, rarely questioning their motives. I walk away...because I dont seem to care enough to withstand the headache of a potential argument, I hate that back and forth, all to realize you have your perspective and I have mine. Skip that exchange and lets walk away....far away...farther than the farthest speck in my rearview. Till youre someone that I used to know.... I understand my policies arent the best, or most conducive for love, and relationships in general...I understand that. I hurt people with my lack of concern, I understand that...
I understand why I am the way I am... * insert "who hurt you" gif* but its more than that, though it is relevant.
Im a loner by nature, geared to be independent, caring for others doesnt come natural. DEALING with people in general is hard for me. I often go through the motions, doing what i "think" im expected to do....that was a set up for failure in a few past relationships. I fall so easily into doing what I think people want me to do, saying what I think people want me to say, because , again, its easier that way, at least in the short term. Though ive tried the whole honesty thing, and apparently lost one of the best girls to ever genuinely care about my life. I let her go, on a misunderstanding....again, im not a people person...instead of further explanation, i allowed us to drift on miscommunication. The thing about drifting apart that I hate is, that moment when you realize its too late to go back...
In my pursuit of understanding Forgiveness, ive only gotten far enough to see that caring is a prerequisite, then I hit a wall...
I dont seek to understand the actions of most people, rarely questioning their motives. I walk away...because I dont seem to care enough to withstand the headache of a potential argument, I hate that back and forth, all to realize you have your perspective and I have mine. Skip that exchange and lets walk away....far away...farther than the farthest speck in my rearview. Till youre someone that I used to know.... I understand my policies arent the best, or most conducive for love, and relationships in general...I understand that. I hurt people with my lack of concern, I understand that...
I understand why I am the way I am... * insert "who hurt you" gif* but its more than that, though it is relevant.
Im a loner by nature, geared to be independent, caring for others doesnt come natural. DEALING with people in general is hard for me. I often go through the motions, doing what i "think" im expected to do....that was a set up for failure in a few past relationships. I fall so easily into doing what I think people want me to do, saying what I think people want me to say, because , again, its easier that way, at least in the short term. Though ive tried the whole honesty thing, and apparently lost one of the best girls to ever genuinely care about my life. I let her go, on a misunderstanding....again, im not a people person...instead of further explanation, i allowed us to drift on miscommunication. The thing about drifting apart that I hate is, that moment when you realize its too late to go back...
In my pursuit of understanding Forgiveness, ive only gotten far enough to see that caring is a prerequisite, then I hit a wall...
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
iight....
Lemme go'head and catch yall up
...so, from mid november up until last thursday I was working at Nordstrom. I actually loved that job. For obvious reasons if youve seen the last few posts and noticed how they were about clothes o_0. Nonetheless, i loved the job, just had a few problems with the management.
Fortunately, as a frequent patron of the Ralph Lauren store, I was offered job, which starts thursday. Also my 3rd semester of grad school ended last week, so Ive been enjoying this mini vaction to chill, rock my sneakers and pretend to get my life together.
Ive decided that I will post here more often (i know, ive said that before) but this is the one place where I can write my thoughts that hasnt been too infiltrated(FB, Tumblr, Twitter) by people that i actually know...not that i dont want readers, I just prefer fewer people. Ultimately I like writing, because it helps me formulate my opinion....and gives me more of a marker for personal progression.
cant wait for work on thursday!
...so, from mid november up until last thursday I was working at Nordstrom. I actually loved that job. For obvious reasons if youve seen the last few posts and noticed how they were about clothes o_0. Nonetheless, i loved the job, just had a few problems with the management.
Fortunately, as a frequent patron of the Ralph Lauren store, I was offered job, which starts thursday. Also my 3rd semester of grad school ended last week, so Ive been enjoying this mini vaction to chill, rock my sneakers and pretend to get my life together.
Ive decided that I will post here more often (i know, ive said that before) but this is the one place where I can write my thoughts that hasnt been too infiltrated(FB, Tumblr, Twitter) by people that i actually know...not that i dont want readers, I just prefer fewer people. Ultimately I like writing, because it helps me formulate my opinion....and gives me more of a marker for personal progression.
cant wait for work on thursday!
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
A lesson on being comfortable
WhatIWore:
Jacket: Vintage Sears & Roebuck (Free)
Shirt: RL Oxford
Tie: Thrifted aka too lazy to go check the label
Belt: RL braided belt
Pants: Levi's 501
Shoes: Allen Edmonds
Though this isnt the most expensive outfit, I love the way it came together. My buying habits are extremely erratic; sometimes I grab one outrageous thing that I have no clue how to wear, or what would even go with it, and other times its simple shit. From my light blue De la Renta jacket, to my white RL pants, somethings will be in the closet for some time, while things like my seemingly infinite collection if ties are worn everyday, especially with work.
Though it all, thrifted or full price, my style is within the same arena; comfort. Luxury or prep its all comfortable, including but not limited to fit, I mean also when I put it on, I KNOW, this is me, and me is this. Contrary to elitist style/menswear bloggers who are quick to call an outfit "costume-y" I believe clothes are more-so personality than status, though sometimes clothes and status do overlap, its not a must. Wearing a rep-tie doesnt make you any more Ivy than wearing MJ shoes will make you a better basketball player, and those were all reasons of function.
Granted I do have a degree, and I am working towards my masters, that indicates not what I wear, at least at this point. I dont believe this is a problem looking like you care, just because your job only requires "casual friday". Just because you are required to wear a suit, doesnt mean you have to be stiff either.I surprisingly I hate having to wear suits because im lazy and hate getting them tailored. I like blazers to mix and match with jeans. Plus I flat out hate wearing too much of the same color, like how suits are generally navy jacket + navy pants or black or grey top and bottom, something about that kills me on the inside and I dont know why *shrug* and as a consequence Im rarely happy to be wearing a suit, especially at work.
...anyway, Im alive, life's pretty good
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
When the time comes
I feel like my life at this point is playing some strange game of duality. Mentally im at one place but physically im at another... Masters program, yet no job, a girl but cant date her...then again thats me as a person...contradiction and non-linear logic...
but for todays post I have the jacket...
A vintage(80s) Christian Dior Double Breasted Shawl Collar jacket
Beautiful gold buttons setting of a particularly blue jacket, not so navy as my iphone would have you believe, its a little lighter. It gives a certain flair of wealth, screaming "im on a boat", yet sophisticated enough to know that you already knew where I was going.
Though the jacket cost me the price of a medium pizza from Little Ceasars, I love it to death. The problem is where exactly would I wear it!? On my any travels to the library?, while pulling an all nighter? or to the movies?, though I kid, my point is a piece such as this deserves a backdrop thats quite comparable to its beauty. Though I am in south florida, im thinking, Worth ave, Palm beach?, Downtown Delray or maybe Mizner Park Boca Raton... None the less with no destination in the foreseeable future I can only imagine when id wear it...
Regardless, theres something about it, a uniqueness about a shawl collar jacket with a pocket on the upper right. One of those things you dont see everyday. Also the fact that its double breasted, not really a common style for mean at the moment.
anyway...I may add more pictures later
but for todays post I have the jacket...
A vintage(80s) Christian Dior Double Breasted Shawl Collar jacket
Beautiful gold buttons setting of a particularly blue jacket, not so navy as my iphone would have you believe, its a little lighter. It gives a certain flair of wealth, screaming "im on a boat", yet sophisticated enough to know that you already knew where I was going.
Though the jacket cost me the price of a medium pizza from Little Ceasars, I love it to death. The problem is where exactly would I wear it!? On my any travels to the library?, while pulling an all nighter? or to the movies?, though I kid, my point is a piece such as this deserves a backdrop thats quite comparable to its beauty. Though I am in south florida, im thinking, Worth ave, Palm beach?, Downtown Delray or maybe Mizner Park Boca Raton... None the less with no destination in the foreseeable future I can only imagine when id wear it...
Regardless, theres something about it, a uniqueness about a shawl collar jacket with a pocket on the upper right. One of those things you dont see everyday. Also the fact that its double breasted, not really a common style for mean at the moment.
anyway...I may add more pictures later
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Via Skype
Sweet innocence
you, through my eyes gives me hope
...or atleast a smile
you and those red pants, did i mention I love red pants?
that girl, with the accent from somewhere with cows in the distance
sometimes i just want you around
you, through my eyes gives me hope
...or atleast a smile
you and those red pants, did i mention I love red pants?
that girl, with the accent from somewhere with cows in the distance
sometimes i just want you around
Thursday, June 9, 2011
060911
Give it all you got, till you got it all...A major precursor to progress is to set aside ones pride in the name of positivity. God's promise was not that life would be easy, but that he would bring you through...over adversity. Dont be too proud to ask for help, and never feel as though you are too good for something...especially when you have no foreseeable options. Very few things in life are absolutely pointless, its a matter of perspective. Find the benefit in adversity and hard times... The past 6 months have shown me that hard times encourage focus. When doors start closing, you have a way of starting to narrow your sights on your destination...Focus and progress are not exclusive to struggling, but the struggle does fast forward the thinking process in my mind... in other words when "shit gets real" youre forces to make a decision...
In life mistakes are inevitable..there are metaphorical "wrecks",where a bad choice leads to a bad outcome, singularly, then there are series of bad decisions. Its important to not let adversity and negatively lead to further bad choices. Be honest with yourself...be real...look at where you are, and look at where you wanna be....then figure out the disconnect, the things that need to happen to get where you want to be.
*heavy sigh*
lets see what happens
I think I heard ice cracking...
In life mistakes are inevitable..there are metaphorical "wrecks",where a bad choice leads to a bad outcome, singularly, then there are series of bad decisions. Its important to not let adversity and negatively lead to further bad choices. Be honest with yourself...be real...look at where you are, and look at where you wanna be....then figure out the disconnect, the things that need to happen to get where you want to be.
*heavy sigh*
lets see what happens
I think I heard ice cracking...
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